Allowing yourself to experience and learn from your emotions is a challenging yet fruitful opportunity for growth, healing and acceptance. So many people struggle with allowing themselves to deeply feel their feelings.
Why People Resist Experiencing Emotions.
Society Priorities Intellect Over Emotions.
We live in a society that prioritises intellect and logic over emotions and feeling things. Emotions are seen as something that clouds logic and should be avoided rather then something that can provide additional information and can enhance the intellectual part of our lives.
They Seem Illogical.
Sometimes emotions feel like they are at odds with the logical aspect of a situation or experience. You may feel angry without really understanding what has caused that. When emotions don’t make immediate and logical sense people don’t give the feelings space to exist, they get pushed down and then you never get to discover where that anger came from.
Fear You Won’t Be Able To Control Them.
A lot of people are so disconnected from their emotional lives that they begin to fear their emotions. They fear becoming overwhelmed with anger or sadness and losing control. For some there is a fear that the emotion will become so big that you will become a helpless victim to it.
Why should you embrace emotions?
Not All Problems Are Logical.
As human beings many of our problems are not purely logical. As an example: people generally don’t chose their romantic partners based exclusively on logic. Humans are emotional beings because of that a lot of the problems that we encounter have an emotional component.
They Aren’t Going Anywhere.
Avoiding emotions don’t work, at least not over the long term. Emotions are part of what makes us human and have served us for the duration of our species. We experience anger when something is not right and we need to defend ourselves. Love binds us to each other so we have a community and protection from predators (in a evolutionary sense). You are stuck with your feelings whether you like it or not.
They Can Be Immensely Valuable.
By embracing your emotions you have a whole new source of information that can guide and inform your direction. They can guide you towards issues that are unresolved or things that need to be addressed. They can also fill you with joy and add vibrant colour to your life.
A Place To Start.
When you have spent so long avoiding and suppressing emotions they can become foreign and unfamiliar. To start reconnecting with your emotional life begin with naming the feelings you are experiencing to yourself. When you feel something stirring inside pause and name what you are experiencing without judgment.
Get To Know How They Feel In Your Body.
Emotions manifest in the physical sensations in the body. Start to notice where certain emotions sit for you. For example, many people describe anxiety and a sensation in their abdomen. Tune in to how emotions sit physiologically.
Approach Them With Curiosity.
Your emotions have so much to tell you if you are willing to listen to them. Instead of quickly disregarding emotions let yourself feel your feelings and notice what comes up along with them. Listen keenly and see what your experiences are telling you.
If you want to be able to embrace your emotions in a way that feels safe and enriching then therapy can help. Call me today to discuss your challenges or to begin treatment.